tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4179516101180622376.post1159392239896229843..comments2024-03-28T00:25:27.585-07:00Comments on Running for My Life: Fighting cancer one step at a time: Who thought they would fly away?Ronni Gordonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00036024135497392070noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4179516101180622376.post-21124312888539597682010-04-08T11:22:26.156-07:002010-04-08T11:22:26.156-07:00Dearest Runni,
just before i came in today, i saw...Dearest Runni,<br /><br />just before i came in today, i saw a pregnant woman on the street, and not yet having read this, for some reason thought of you, when you were pregnant, and that the next thing this woman would know that her child was college-bound -- i thought of you, and daytoday, meals, car rides...<br />that jerk who said pretentiouisly "those wretched children..." "Mom, what's wretched...?"<br />If your Mother could let you spread your wings and soar, so can you...besides they all can and will and do go home again!<br />xopAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4179516101180622376.post-19540498327707127912010-04-07T11:39:10.886-07:002010-04-07T11:39:10.886-07:00I remember how strange it felt as my son left my h...I remember how strange it felt as my son left my house that day....just months after this father had left. I had never lived alone and didn't know how I would handle it. The following months were like a healing balm for me. I discovered all kinds of things about myself that had been long forgotten. For the first time as an adult my choices were all made to suit me. The following year another man came into my life. My son and I have a wonderful relationship and I am so grateful for that time. I hope you will find some positives when you find yourself at this place...and besides you will still have your furchild. :)Nellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06927983874624510031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4179516101180622376.post-13721312431951627072010-04-05T17:08:38.872-07:002010-04-05T17:08:38.872-07:00The space that the absence of our children creates...The space that the absence of our children creates can be lonely and hard to fill, espcially if you are thinking of filling it with something similar, which you can't. So instead of looking at the loss, how about make a list of all of the things you would like to do for yourself that you've never had the chance to do. Maybe take a course? Or join a writers group? Or take up art or another hobby? Or volunteer at the High School to mentor the students involved in the school newspaper? Join a cooking-circle where you make dinners and eat together once a month? Bring the dog and come to Wellfleet for a week off-season? Be creative and think about the next phase of life as unique and precious for you. <br /><br />The kids will be back - as you know. (The higher the tuition, it seems, the less time they are actually in school!) <br /><br />Love you,<br />DianeDianenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4179516101180622376.post-63116224758744009462010-04-03T06:07:58.187-07:002010-04-03T06:07:58.187-07:00Time for a new lab puppy! They're much cuter ...Time for a new lab puppy! They're much cuter than babies anyway. (Though Katie and Charlotte were pretty close competition, at least by age 1...)<br /><br />DeborahAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4179516101180622376.post-72417365767140543032010-04-02T14:08:40.429-07:002010-04-02T14:08:40.429-07:00Ronni: Interesting... 8 paragraphs and not a word ...Ronni: Interesting... 8 paragraphs and not a word about cancer treatments, hospitals, doctors, etc. Just the normal tough emotional stuff that we all have to go through. <br /><br />So maybe you're on the rebound after all..just dealing with the ordinary vicissitudes of life.<br /><br />Wouldn't that be nice for a change.<br /><br />PS -- I'd be happy to lend you my daughter for about 8-9 years if you're feeling lonely when yours leaves home...oh, will you embrace your isolation then!Jonnynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4179516101180622376.post-92120703613437166852010-04-01T21:04:23.519-07:002010-04-01T21:04:23.519-07:00Ronni, you are such a resilient fascinating soul t...Ronni, you are such a resilient fascinating soul that I have no doubt that you'll be fine. You and Patricia constantly amaze me and make me smile. I read your comment on the Plog and I look forward to being able to ask strangers in the bookstore if they've read either of your books.Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16214868698905207283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4179516101180622376.post-63495487073499322262010-04-01T18:22:00.597-07:002010-04-01T18:22:00.597-07:00I have no doubt that (after a brief mourning perio...I have no doubt that (after a brief mourning period) you'll find wonderful activities to fill the void.Susan Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12178330935523896363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4179516101180622376.post-68857000805324242232010-04-01T04:14:10.806-07:002010-04-01T04:14:10.806-07:00This sure resonates with me. Maybe it's time t...This sure resonates with me. Maybe it's time to downsize the nest. You will find things to fill the time.PJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08895652549080926672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4179516101180622376.post-15712573356098936272010-03-31T22:57:08.145-07:002010-03-31T22:57:08.145-07:00Ronni: I promise to bring you food including appr...Ronni: I promise to bring you food including appropriate quantities of chocolate) and the newspaper. What else does anyone REALLY need anyway? I suppose there is something to be said for not dwelling on the unpleasant future now, when you could be enjoying Katie rather than mourning her. I'd be inclined to rehearse the leaving over and over in my mind, as though this could protect me from the moment it really happens. The Zen wisdom: be with it, whatever it is and then let it go. Love,<br />MerylMerylnoreply@blogger.com